Process to improve your self image!

 

Ever been nervous at a job interview? Have you thought of asking someone out, but then never did? Ever go to a fancy restaurant and try very hard to do everything right? And, then breathe a sigh of relief once you left the restaurant? Ever stop doing something you really wanted to do, because of what other people might think? Well, it’s because we a human beings are very conscious about what other people think about us. It’s called self image. The higher our self image, the better our lives will be and the reverse stands true as well.

 

So, what’s the solution? First step is to admit to ourselves that we need to develop our self-image. Nobody is perfect. Everybody needs to develop personally no matter where they are in life. If they don’t, they will either stay at the same level of happiness or slide down. The more we stay in denial, the worse our life gets.

 

Second step is to make three lists. First is a positive list of all the things that we are currently do that make us happy. Second is a negative list of all  the things that currently do that don’t make us happy. You know, the kind where you say, if I could get this (person, situation, etc.) out of my life, my life would be so much better. Third list is of all the things that would make us happy if we go to do them, but we don’t currently do.

 

Third step is to slowly stop doing the things on the second list and try to replace them with the things on the third list. Over a period of time, you will be doing a lot of things that you want to do in life. Doing this will create a feeling of happiness in us. And, when we feel happy, we attract success. Initially, we all start with minor successes. This in-turn wil also build our self-confidence.

 

Doing the first three steps on a regular basis guaranteed increases our self-confidence. Once our self confidence is high enough, we don’t think about what other people think of us. Increasing our self confidence increases our self image.

 

To fasten this process, it is important that we also read positive books for a few minutes every day, listen to positive talks and develop positive associations by hanging around people who support and encourage us.

 

The process I have listed here has tremendously helped me increase my self image over the course of last few years, and I believe it can do the same for you, if you apply it on a regular basis. If I can do it, so can you.

 

Respectfully,
Mayur Gudka

Develop an Attitude of Gratitude

What is Attitude of Gratitude?

Attitude of Gratitude is about being thankful for who you are and what you have. Some people are always happy and thankful for what they have. And, some are always grumpy and never happy with what they have. Somehow, most of the time everything that happens to them is also “Sour”, like themselves. Where as, people who have an attitude of gratitude, they experience good things most of the time.

How do you develop an Attitude of Gratitude?

Say “Thank You” as often as you can. If someone gives you money, thank them. If someone holds an elevator or a door for you, thank them. If you find a penny on the ground, thank god for putting money in your way. If someone gives you a gift or cooks a meal for you, thank them.

Oh, and remember don’t just thank them for the heck of it. Show sincerity in your words and actions while thanking them. Make a habit of thanking at least 10 people a day, until it becomes a habit. Once you cultivate this habit, it will do miracles in your life.

Why should you develop an Attitude of Gratitude?

When you give someone gratitude, it makes you feel good. When you feel good, your mind and heart are energized. When your mind and heart are energized, you create good thoughts, which motivate you to take action in a positive manner. When an action is taken in a positive manner with a purpose behind it, it will always become successful. Having an attitude of gratitude is a secret to success.

Hope this helped. Looking forward to reading your comments.

Respectfully,
Mayur

Dis-associate to Associate

Charlie “Tremendous” Jones says that five years from now, you will ahead, behind or stagnant in life depending on two things – kind of books you read and the people you associate with.

If you are not in life where you want to be, change your association. Otherwise, five years from today, everything will be the same in your life except, you will be five years older. Also, don’t associate with people who bring you down. Because, if you associate with such people on a regular basis, you will be in a worse situation than you currently are. So, how do you pick you association?

Look at people who are already in life where you want to be. Are they willing to help you get where they are? If your answer is yes, then these are the people you should be associating with. It will help you improve your mindset. They will challenge you to do better in life. They will guide you into the right path so you can also be as successful as they are.

You should also remember to not associate with the people who are going nowhere in life. Remember to dis-associate, so you can associate with people who have your interest at heart.

Figure out what you want in life. Find people who already the things you want in life. Lastly, figure out a way to associate with them.

Hope this helped. Looking forward to reading your comments.

Respectfully,
Mayur

What is your brain worth?

Do you know how much is your brain worth? Or, do you need a check-up from your neck-up? It sounds so funny – check-up from your neck-up. I personally believe, that every human brain is worth about $3 Billion, at the very least. I mean, look at how fast your brain can operate. It does about 20,000 Trillion calculations per seconds. Don’t believe it? You ever see something or read something and all of a sudden your brain travels back in time and remembers a person or an event related to your reading or seeing? That’s right. It takes lots of calculations to do something like that for a computer. Your brain does that in an instant. Your brain is worth #3 Billion if you need it and nourish it properly. I don’t mean, you would get $3 Billion by selling your brain, but your brain has the ability to make you that much money in your lifetime.

This actually reminded me of a joke … A person was seriously ill into the hospital. His family was at the hospital to give him Moral support. At one point, the doctor came out and told the family, that it was imperative that the patients brain be changed, otherwise he could die. Doctor said, “It doesn’t matter whether we install a female brain or a male brain. It is all the same. There’s just a cost difference.” A family member asked, “How much is the cost difference?”. Doctor said, “A female brain costs $500 where as the male brain costs $5,000.” Obviously the males in the room seemed to be very proud. They tried not to smile or smirk. However, one male in the room couldn’t resist and asked the doctor about the difference. Doctor explained, “A female brain costs less because it is always very used. A male brain costs so much is because it is hardly ever used.”

Hope you had a good laugh, regardless of whether you are a male or female. Anyways, most people spend lots of money every day to feed their body neck-down. But, very few people invest their time and money in feeding their body neck-up. If you look at how money is made, people who use neck-down part of their body at their jobs make very less money compared to people who mostly use their brain to make money. Ever think about it?

Question is how do you feed your brain every day? You read books … books that inspire you, fill your brain with positive thoughts, books that encourage and provide ways for you to become better. You associate with people who are in life where you want to be. You dis-associate with people who are in life where you don’t want to be.

Take action now. You can do it. You can change your life and make it better. It will help you and your family. It worked for me, and it will for you also. Hope I helped.

Respectfully,
Mayur